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How to become motivated to become the best version of yourself.
My Fear of Fiction
Introduction I don't think I am very good at fiction and don't believe that I could ever write a book. To me, there is too much planning involved and my mind likes to run off in an uncontrolled manner where I reign it in if I get too wild. This is really about how I manage to write fiction despite being scared stiff every time I put pen to paper, or finger to keyboard.
By Mike Singleton 💜 Mikeydred 7 days ago in Motivation
The Rejection
How 117 "No's" Led to the Biggest "Yes" of My Life REJECTION NUMBER ONE 😤 The first investor I pitched my business idea to listened politely for exactly four minutes before interrupting me to say "This is the worst idea I've heard this year and I hear terrible ideas professionally" and then stood up, shook my hand, and walked out of the conference room leaving me sitting alone with my carefully prepared slide deck and my shattered confidence and the first of what would become one hundred and seventeen rejections that collectively transformed me from a naive optimistic entrepreneur into someone who understood that the path to success is not paved with yeses but rather with nos that teach you what yes requires 📉
By The Curious Writer7 days ago in Motivation
The 5-Second Rule
THE MORNING I ALMOST QUIT EVERYTHING 😰 Three years ago I was standing in the parking lot of the company where I had worked for seven years staring at the front door and physically unable to make myself walk through it because the anxiety that had been building for months had finally reached a level where my body simply refused to cooperate with my mind's instructions to move forward, and I stood there for twenty-two minutes according to my phone's step counter which recorded no movement during that period feeling simultaneously paralyzed and panicked because I knew that not walking through that door meant losing my job and losing my job meant losing my apartment and losing my apartment meant moving back in with my parents at thirty-four years old which felt like a confirmation of every fear I had about being fundamentally incapable of functioning as an adult in a world that seemed to operate by rules everyone else understood but that I had never been given 😔
By The Curious Writer7 days ago in Motivation
It's Difficult Without a System | The Iron Standard Day #2
After completing the first day of the challenge (Read Day 1 for the rules here), I found that I only managed to complete 14 out of the 18 tasks. The challenge was always going to be ambitious, and with this many to do I found myself rushing to complete as many as I could before the day's end. I need to have a system.
By Dave's Your Uncle!7 days ago in Motivation
The Two-Pizza Rule for Decision Making
THE DECISION PARALYSIS EPIDEMIC Modern life presents an unprecedented number of decisions daily, with some researchers estimating that the average adult makes approximately thirty-five thousand conscious decisions every single day ranging from what to eat and what to wear to complex professional and personal choices that have long-term consequences, and this massive decision load produces a state of chronic decision fatigue where the quality of your choices deteriorates progressively throughout the day as the cognitive resources required for good decision-making deplete, and the result is that your worst decisions tend to happen in the evening when your decision-making capacity is at its lowest, which unfortunately is when many of the most consequential personal decisions are made including relationship conversations, financial choices, and parenting decisions.
By The Curious Writer7 days ago in Motivation
Life Full Reset | The Iron Standard Day #1
I enjoy a good challenge. In the past I've decided, randomly, to undertake various challenges just for the sheer fun of it. From drinking just water for 1 month to the 75 Days Hard challenge, I'd do anything to push myself. Now, after what I can only describe as the toughest period of my life so far, It's time to attempt yet another challenge, except this time, I'm going to do things a little differently.
By Dave's Your Uncle!8 days ago in Motivation
Overthinking
How the Voice in Your Head Became Your Worst Enemy THE PARASITE WEARING YOUR FACE There is a voice in your head that narrates your life, evaluates your every action, predicts catastrophic futures, replays embarrassing pasts, compares you unfavorably to everyone around you, and maintains a running commentary of criticism, doubt, and fear that is so constant and so familiar you have mistaken it for yourself, for the essential voice of who you are, when in reality it is a pattern recognition system running outdated survival software that was useful when you were navigating the dangers of childhood but that has become a parasitic process consuming your mental resources and generating suffering that serves no adaptive purpose in your adult life. This voice is not you any more than the spam filter on your email is you, it is a function of your brain that evolved to identify threats and that has been hijacked by the conditions of modern life into perpetual activity because the brain cannot distinguish between real threats like physical danger and perceived threats like social evaluation, professional uncertainty, and existential anxiety, and so it processes everything as potentially dangerous and fills your consciousness with warnings about threats that are almost entirely imaginary.
By The Curious Writer8 days ago in Motivation
